I am not naïve enough to think that just because today was flawless, means tomorrow will mirror this moment. If you haven’t already realized, I am one mentally fucked individual. But that’s okay. The thing that was driving me to the brink of crazy was trying to be “normal.” I’m not normal. I’m the exact opposite of normal, and I’ve accepted it, making me feel far more relaxed than I have in quite a long time. And if you want my opinion, I think that’s what a lot of the problem is these days. We’ve disregarded the fact that we’re all individuals. Instead of embracing our individuality, we try so hard to fit in. Somewhere… anywhere!! We don’t want to be separate from the crowd. Our comfort zone is belonging. Well, I don’t belong anywhere, and that’s A, OK with me. I’m an individual trying to just make it through another day in the life… As are the rest of us.
It has been said that everyone has anxiety. That’s why I felt normal growing up. I thought everyone felt the same way I did. I just couldn’t understand how they maintained their composure, and I was constantly running to the bathroom. So, as an adult, I now watch my friends go out, whether to dinner or the grocery store, without any hesitation. I wonder what that feels like… I see pictures posted on Facebook of groups of people going out, spending time together, either at someone’s house or out some place and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t envious. I’d love to be a part of that group, but being an introvert with all these mental issues certainly isn’t helping the situation. I’ve come to realize that I can only handle socialization in tiny bits. That’s why I don’t normally invite people over. How exactly do you invite someone to your house and then after a short while say “Okay…I’ve had enough. You have to leave.”? It’s so much easier to just be here alone. So many people take their mental health for granted. I can bet my life that if all of those people who have called me crazy had to last one day in my head, they wouldn’t make it past the first hour. It’s not that I’m not comfortable in my own skin…I’m not comfortable in my head! All the things I’m constantly saying to myself without realization. The constant tornado ripping apart anything that even comes close to a normal thought. I know…positive affirmations. And I know they work. But when you fuck everything up so much, it’s kind of hard to convince yourself that you’re a good person. That you have any value; that you actually mean something to someone.
I have resorted to inspirational reading. My head might not be in the right place most of the time, but I want my soul to be. I can feel myself evolving because I’ve changed my perception. However, changing your perception when you’re having a bipolar episode is extremely hard to do. So, for today, I truly wonder what normal feels like. To wake up and not secretly, desperately yearn for a Xanax the moment you open your eyes. To hold a steady job where you aren’t constantly taking a break to get through a panic attack; to just get in your car and go somewhere without any hesitation. I cannot look ahead on the calendar. If I know I have an appointment coming up, whether for myself or my son, I’m on edge until the day arrives. Once it’s over, I could sleep for a week. So tell me… What DOES it feel like to be normal? To be able to do all of the above and then some without anxiety as your shadow? Without the fear of just having to get away take over without any notice; without panicking about upcoming appointments… What does it feel like to be normal?